Recently, after wrestling for months with a decision, I finally let go of something that I had tightly held as very dear. I spent just a day or two mourning what I perceived (emphasis here) as a loss. To quiet my spirit and to just feel better, I spent some time in prayer and meditation to gain the divine perspective of the situation cause there usually is one. In that time, I asked for the courage to “let go” effectively. As I sat quietly listening, the word “release” kept coming to my mind.
Release. Release. Release.
After a little time… frustrated and a bit annoyed, I argued, “I got it already! I’m letting go! Sheesh!”
But then I heard it again, and this time there was a long pause between the “re” and the “lease”.
Re <pause for dramatic effect> lease. Re <pause for dramatic effect> lease. Re <pause… I’m sure you get the point.
Then, I couldn’t help to gasp, “OHHHHHH!!!”
Eureka!!! The durn fog lifted off of my very cloudy (at the time) spiritual eyes.
The prefix “Re” means “Back & Again”.
When you add the prefix “Re” to another root word, such as call to make the word recall, the action then is to go back and call again. For instance, if there is a product on the market that has a defect, the manufacturer may recall the item back to fix the defect before offering that product up to the market again should they decide to do so. In another instance, if you make a call to someone and they don’t answer the first time, you may go back and call that person again and maybe leave a voice message this time (Do people still do that?).
The root word “lease” is defined by Oxford Dictionaries as “a contract by which one party conveys land, property, services, etc., to another for a specified time, usually in return for a periodic payment”.
Put the prefix “re” with the root word “lease”, you get the word “release” which as we discussed above means to go back and lease again. I will add here that the new lease can be the same contract or one with modified provisions. Well, that’s just about as brilliant a way of looking at “letting go” as I could ever imagine!
“Letting go is not about giving up, being lazy, or sacrificing yourself… Letting go doesn’t have to mean losing; it can be about coming into a new, open, clean space from which you can create.”
― Rebekah Elizabeth Gamble,
In our finite minds, we see the process of “letting go” as an act of submission that implies we are actually losing something. But in this sense, you are not essentially losing anything. You are, in fact, re-leasing that space that was leased to something else with something else… perhaps something that doesn’t cost as much. Letting go does not always imply a loss. Perhaps, the terms of the lease just need to be re-evaluated.
Whether it’s heart space that you’ve given to a situation way too long, an old, outdated story that no longer serves you that you’ve told for years and years and years, a relationship that has worn you down mentally and physically, or even patterns of negative thinking that has built up over the years. To “release” means to go back and lease again. Go back and lease again that space that was filled with turmoil with some peace this time; a healthier relationship; some love and joy and forgiveness. And sometimes, release can mean letting go and then going back to trying that same thing again with a new set of eyes and a fresh perspective.
Count up the costs. The cost of leasing something that you should be letting go may be higher than the price you want to pay. That’s a crummy deal I tell ya… made by a real scum of a salesman called fear.